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  • ClassicGentleman posted an update in the group Group logo of Your FantasiesYour Fantasies 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Good evening. I would like to introduce myself as at this point I am unsure of what other to do. I am in the midst of middle-age and have a very satisfying life in many regards. After years of hard work and meager earnings, I have been blessed to have had success and a blossoming of my career that has allowed me the beginnings of actually “having a life”. Family life is good, though quite busy. I am married to the most wonderful of women. She is all the things that I might want if I had made a list: beautiful, intelligent, humorous (truly), organized, active and a wonderful mother. Our life together seems to be lacking nothing. From the outside. Things have transpired. Work. Kids. Stress. I haven’t been myself. She suggested that I read some posts here for inspiration so here I am. I am already intrigued.

    • Hello and welcome. Truly! Please tell us if you have had any chance to do some reading here and what your impressions may be? There are many titillating stories. Any catch your eye or interest?
        • Thank you very much. I read a bit and dod not expect a reply to my post. I was very excited to receive it. There is much here that is quite exciting to read and ponder. I feel so awkward being here as this is an area of my life in which I have not felt comfortable for a long time. I see your writing and am heartbroken to read it as it sounds so very sad. I have no doubt that your husband would like to have known your pain. I very much wish to heal.
        • Welcome! Hope you can find some inspiration in here for the different sort of life you’d like to live.
          • Gentleman, your expressions are quite familiar as I read them. Feel free to message me if you’d like as I believe we might have much to chat about.
            • Thank you to each for your warm words. I have read the words of Holly on various of her posts and understand her feelings intimately. My marriage js one that is wonderful in many ways but we have allowed ourselves to grow apart through inattention and neglect that we rationalized that was common for everyone with a family and career. As it turns out, this was not entirely correct. Though common, it is not a phenomenon experienced by those who realize the importance of nurturing intimacy. The result for me personally has been a significant loss of confidence. Where I once felt bold I now feel self-conscious. At times I feel less if a man and though I want to have intimacy and wonderful sex, I do not want my present insecurities to deprive my Wife of joy and fulfillment. I have hinted to her the idea that I would not be upset if she took a lover on occasion, I am not sure that she has understood the message. I envision that it might help her to have some enjoyment and take a bit of pressure off of me. I have lost the understanding of how to express myself sexually and even question who I am. Perhaps I might find ways to re-discover here. I really want to enjoy things again instead of feeling the torment that I regularly feel. Please forgive the over-sharing but actually feel a brief sense of relief in sharing. Thank you for your kindness.
              • I would also note that I am happy to chat in the event that anyone has an interest in messaging. I would in fact appreciate an opportunity for that.