Update regarding the dirty lad on two wheels… To my joy, there was a good deal of flirtation and innuendo and the revelation that he was curious about kink and serving/being punished by me. Unfortunately, well… here’s the short version:

him: so uh, there is nothing i want more than to be totally controlled by you
me: Really? Is there a “but….” after that statement?
him: there is, sadly.
me: I figured as much. Girlfriend?
him: someone i’ve decided to take it to the next level with. i’d putz’d around for a long time. more like i did because i was checking out my options
me: Is this part of the re prioritization?
him: yes – there is a whole lot going on
me: Fair. Everyone warned me to stay away from you. I’m sorry they were right.
him: oh – didnt realize that i had a rep. hurts to hear lol
me: Yeah. Well, if you change into the commitment type, that might change.
him: i have a fear of commitment
me: I noticed.

Sigh. Once again, unlucky in lust and love almost exactly a year after the last entanglement went wrong. However, I think he and I are both growing as people if a) he told me about getting serious about someone else instead of going through with fooling around with me (as he had done this to someone else in the past and she had to find out about his new girlfriend from someone else after not hearing from him in weeks) and b) I didn’t get drunk at a party and threaten to hacksaw his bike and set it on fire if I ran into him. No hard feelings. There are other lycra-clad lads for this huntress to chase down. So, it may be possible for a rake to reform and a bad girl to be less feloniously bad.