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Sloane posted an update in the group
Your Experiments 11 years, 11 months ago Maybe not an experiment per say, but something that could be experimented with, so I’ll put it in this group. I was wondering if others could enlighten me with what their thoughts and/or experiences are of asking to cum, like for getting permission to orgasm from someone, or for giving that permission. Just curious as to whether this is a relatively new thought to some, something people have tried and enjoyed, something they aren’t into and do not find hot, something some one would maybe want to give a go. This is just a broad question and I am just curious as to others thoughts.
First and foremost, it is contextual. Its about control and one person has to want to have it and the other has to want to give it…how much and how far to take that “power dynamic” is totally open to negotiation/circumstance/nature and how enjoyable it therefore can be, totally depends. If the Dominance/submission gene exists sexually, between two people, and/or they both are willing to take it seriously, then it can be earth shatteringly good! If both parties aren’t on the same page either because the chemistry isn’t there naturally or they haven’t discussed and committed to playing the “game” itself, this type of thing usually falls flat on its face.
I will say this, my experience is that for women who orgasm easily, trying to stop themselves can be very hard which makes the need for permission (if taken seriously) no easy feat, on the flip side, there is nothing less satisfying than the person coming without “permission” or not even trying (unless both parties need an excuse to explore “consequences” consequences of acting badly).
For women who take a long time to get to the brink, holding back isn’t all that hard so giving up control isn’t really that difficult, and how pissed would they be if making such a demand actually ruined the moment and they lost their chance to cum entirely!
Alternatively, for another variation on the theme (and one that doesn’t have to include a D/s element), consider playing around with orgasm denial – repeatedly bringing someone to the brink of orgasm and stopping the stimulation or taking such other action as to halt the process until they are wild and mad with frustration and can’t take it any more, or forced orgasm where they are constantly stimulated (usually with constant stimulation in multiple forms like insertions, vibrators and touch all at once) to the point that they are made to orgasm over and over again, also until they can’t take it any more… Nothing like denying Miss easy to cum the pleasure until she has one big earth shattering orgasm, and nothing like making Miss earth shattering go there over and over again…
Oh, and these last two can be absolutely be a much bigger part of the D/s “game” as well…
So which are you Sloan…easy cum easy go…or gotta work for your rewards? If you have a guy who pushes certain buttons with you, this could be great no matter what…
I have done this on a couple of occasions with a partner. They were both easy to make cum, and one was also a squirter….
The first time I played this game I kept the lady on edge for nearly 3 hours, before I made her cum, so hard that she fainted. the smile on her face afterwards was great, and then she said that she had enjoyed it so much she wanted it to become part of our regular sex life….
The second one, who was a squirter was given an orgasm restriction, except she did not know how many orgasms she was allowed in a week, all she knew it was more than 7 and less than 20…
When we got together at the weekend, we talked about the restrictions and she had already had 9 orgasms, and she knew the penalty for exceeding her allotted number was a whole weekend in bondage (even at night), no orgasms while on holiday together the following 2 weeks.
After a long session of lovemaking she finally came so hard, the juices squirted all over the bed and seeped through the so called waterproof mattress cover!
The following day she was given the envelope and was furious with me because she could have had another 2 orgasms.