This is interesting (and very sexy). Of course you shouldn’t be ashamed of a fantasy like this, but it is interesting that we can be ashamed with a fantasy when it doesn’t coincide with “our image of ourselves”. I’m guessing that the fantasy tends to be closer to the truth in these situations. Or at least the truth of the moment – it’s always…[Read more]

I’ve always been off-put by rape fantasies, perhaps because I know so many people who have been victims of sexual assault. I like yours much better– the idea of a man who throws me down and overpowers me, but only because I want him to and I am enjoying it as well as he is.

Ha! Yes, I’ll be quite pleased if the sext dare is to “do X” to someone. I’ll go ahead and start making preparations. I really like the idea of speaking/writing/sexting past your “comfort zone”, and I’ll be eager to hear what you and hopefully others devise.

So I will go first…oh, wait, no one else but Mr. X seems to have even seen this…so let me kick this off by sharing my Sext…AND…to prove my point, I already have the privilege of being able to share with you the result!!! (which I will admit even I am astounded to be able to say).

First, I do have to set this up a little bit…no there…[Read more]

And the results…

First things first…Yes, she really did take a picture of her pussy while she was sitting at her desk and send it to me. Yes is did look exactly as I described in my text. No, she has never ever done anything anywhere near that daring or salacious much less sent it to me during the work day, so I knew whatever I had said,…[Read more]

First and foremost, it is contextual. Its about control and one person has to want to have it and the other has to want to give it…how much and how far to take that “power dynamic” is totally open to negotiation/circumstance/nature and how enjoyable it therefore can be, totally depends. If the Dominance/submission gene exists sexually, between…[Read more]

This is a fascinating development, and I’ve really enjoyed following your adventures over the past months. I’m afraid this one’s out of my circle of knowledge, but I really hope some other readers will comment with their opinions/advice. Good luck!

Mmmm…thoughtful, measured, BDSM…sounds like a tremendous idea. Lots of fun can be had with this new aspect, and it sounds like a very promising twist on your already very liberating relationship! There is nothing more rewarding for me than connecting with someone else on a level that allows such wants and desires not only to be expressed…[Read more]

In case I wasn’t perfectly clear in my original post, I am no sadist. I am a lover not a fighter and I don’t totally get the pain thing – maybe I have just never really had the desire or willingness to go there or a partner able to expertly wield the whip – but I do know for certain that everyones reactions to pain are different. Not knowing you…[Read more]

I love this. I think that there’s something to be said about fantasizing about a real, specific person and a situation that may potentially come to fruition. Plus, I just think that your particular fantasy is incredibly sexy and it’d be interesting to see how she’d actually respond were you to proposition her like this.

What a sexy fantasy, James (and quite daring and honest, actually), and what a wonderful description of that woman. If she ever got ahold of that text, I think the words would do the work for you. Me, I always want to be consumed by a massage, to give over control and just let it all happen, but your fantasy turns the tables completely until the…[Read more]

I haven’t read this, nor do I think I will, but I’m curious to see people’s reactions to the “phenomenon” and have created a new group – Erotic Books – and a new forum – Fifty Shades of Grey – here: http://www.thesexexperiment.com/groups/erotic-books/forum/topic/fifty-shades-of-grey/

Hated it? Loved it? You can post everything in the forum, send…[Read more]

How about a photoshoot; but not just any type of photoshoot – a sexy photoshoot (rather obvious, considering where we are). Let me set the scene for you:

You both plan it ahead of time. You (or you and him) pick out a few outfits that are a little more sexy than you usually wear, but still decent for public viewing. Maybe some more skin, maybe…[Read more]

In a past relationship, on a dare we went to not-on-premises swingers club. We did not connect with others there or want to. We wanted the sexual tension in the room and to be in our own bubble. If you want to be left alone, you will be as swingers are very polite. In my present relationship, my very straight lady and I have gone to the clubs and…[Read more]

Wow, very hot. This group is becoming like a sexy job fair: first limo driver, now physical therapist.

This reminds me of my wife’s dare, although you obviously went further: http://www.thesexexperiment.com/2011/04/18/the-massage-experiment/

And yes, of course, I’m absolutely in!

One of my favorite porn series is the “Fucked Hard 18” series which is pretty much what you described. Something about that just really turns me on–perhaps the idea of getting relief and release in more way than one 😉