The problem is in using “bitch” and “slut” to describe an overactive sex drive — neither word is particularly amenable — I prefer the medicalized “hypersexual”, sounds like something involving chandeliers and swinging.

At one level, I get what you are saying here…I know I wasn’t brought up to say such things and there is nothing like an ultra-liberal college experience to make damn sure you know how not to speak to womyn. Also, as a man (and not aware of too many derogatory references for guys that could illicit such a visceral reaction in me), I respect that these words are very loaded. On the other hand, one does have to ask why they strike such a chord with you? In writing (and especially erotic writing), isn’t the point to provoke feelings and emotions? The mere fact that they get a strong reaction wouldn’t be enough to warrant their use, but the truth is that they tap into the core of peoples guilt and shame about sex and sexuality. Whether these words should be “reclaimed” and adopted proudly or continue to be perceived as negative and derrogatory (which may be precisely the point of their use and which some people like), it is hard to argue that they should not be used as a writer views as appropriate as they see fit…