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  • ellariasand posted an update in the group Group logo of Your ExperimentsYour Experiments 11 years, 9 months ago

    The Bicycle Experiment 2.5(?)

    When I told my therapist about this and wondered why he would come out of the woodwork after an extended period of radio silence, she simply stated “Guys like him ALWAYS come back.”

    I was nursing yet another case of heartache (aka The Bicycle Experiment 3.0, which I really don’t think I can write about just because…[Read more]

    • I’d also like to add that I have a fantasy where I have him bent on all fours and ask him if he even remembers any of the names of the 50-60 girls he supposedly “banged” in college. Then I would hit him with the riding crop for each one of them (if he can’t remember/stumbles on a name, I hit him progressively harder).

    • I read about your Bad Lad here and he just symbolizes so much of your rides and races. The obstacles that pop up. You know you can’t win all the time. But crossing the finish line is always a possibility. And the occasional win is so incredibly seductive, you keep going for it.

      • Sadly, I have yet to actually win a race, so this metaphor is accurate in a sad way.

        One of my teammates interjected with “it’s not a game” when I talked about sabotaging my relationships by trying to look ten moves in. I should have replied with “Well, if romance/sex isn’t a game, then why do I always feel like I’m losing?”

        Also, yes, double…[Read more]

    • From the bit you’ve written about him, he sounds to me like he is an ‘opportunist’. A guy who wants whatever the situation or the girl will allow. He takes what comes easy and via his ‘usual’ methods and he cares for it as something that is usual and came easy. I would ask you, if you actually do already know this or feel this to be true? And if…[Read more]

      • Oh I am well aware that he’s a trap and his interest in me is most likely proportional to how much attention he is or isn’t getting from others.

        Very astute observations. I told a friend of mine the story of one of my gym teachers in high school. I loathed this guy since he had the stench of failed college athlete wafting of of him in waves.…[Read more]

        • Got it! And sounds like you do too. Agree completely with the last paragraph.

          P.s. Nothing wrong with tenderness, sometimes it is in fact just exactly what we need. There is not one of us that is invulnerable nor should we be. 🙂

          P.s.s. Keep the adventures coming!

  • Cinco de Mayo… and a Hedo Event…. Oh My >;-)

    • The Makings of the next date night?

      • It was beyond anything I imagined would happen. The end result was three couples in the bed with five total couples in the room. I finally dabbled in one of my fantasies but still haven’t figured out how to fully unleash my inner bi-curiousities :-/

    • Oooo la la… Pleas say your going to tell us more. What did you do? How did you feel? What surprised you about it? What was fun about the sharing afterward? What made you decide to go for it? Where you craving a steak afterward? 😉

      I’d say don’t worry about the bi thing, I think with most things it is better not to force it, it will be…[Read more]

    • Ooo yippee yi yea!

  • And without further ado…the moment of truth – or at least the very beginning of it!

    And I must say this is quite a beginning!!!

    There is sooo much going on here and every ounce of it incredibly rich and complex and filled with anxiety and uncertainty and exhilaration and arousal.

    Bravo for delivering a scene with so many details to consider…[Read more]

  • PICKING UP NICOLE AT THE AIRPORT

    “Looks good. On time. About half an hour, she’d be here.” Alex takes Rachel’s hand and guides her awkwardly toward some seats near the gate. Rachel fidgets quietly until he pulls her close to him. His arm around her waist, her hand on his torso. Their heads close. “I’ve got you,” he reassures her.

    From…[Read more]

    • “hammering of heart beats and heaving of labored breathes” indeed, you have ratcheted up the emotion to a truly torturous level. Merciless tension makes me squirm.

  • <aProfile picture of href=”http://www.thesexexperiment.com/members/connetion123/”>open234 and are now friends 11 years, 10 months ago

  • What would be a better option for a couple exploring their fantasies for the first time?
    FF husband watching (wife is very bi-curious).
    FFM husband participating.
    MMF (wife has never been with anyone but husband).
    MFMF (everyone playing with each other)

    • This is difficult to answer without first knowing what husband’s fantasy vs. wife’s fantasy vs. couple’s joint fantasy.

      If it is simply a couple’s joint fantasy to add another person(s) to their sex life, I think the first step might be FF (husband watching or not). Continuing on this same joint fantasy, I think you listed the options in…[Read more]

      • Do you think women would be more judgemental than a man would be (body wise)?

        • Yes, I do think women are “harder” on women because we are harder on ourselves and women have more body image issues than men.

        • I gotta think if your not comfortable enough with these people to not be body conscious, then you could be rushing things… Oh my God, is this really me being the wet blanket here…. Ah Miss Kitty you must have found a warm place in my heart I am being protective of you and your Willie

        • I had to write fast this morning, so I couldn’t pontificate… But now… Here it comes 🙂
          I get it we are all hard on ourselves. I’m not denying that. Heck I was just walking down the street, looked up and ten feet in front of me is this fantastic young woman with a light cotton tank and an incredible bouncing rack with hard nipples and tight…[Read more]

    • It really depends on the people, and how well everybody knows each other, and how aligned every persons goals and expectations are. If you’ve never done anything with another person, I’d approach it as a process. You take small steps, you see what comes up, understand the types of challenges that you weren’t expecting and work through those bit…[Read more]

      • FF can be less threatening, but it can also mean you defer real questions that are going to come up eventually. There really are so many assumptions I can see myself making to answer this. For it to fit, I think you should narrow it, and ask a more specific question, then I think we could really take it somewhere.

    • I have tried to think about how to answer this in the simplest way and it is so situationally different, I just can’t. Take for example a question like this: are you looking for a one off anonymous romp with essentially a human sex toy or looking to incorporate this person emotionally, sexually, and functionally long-term into your relationship?…[Read more]

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